Monday, January 10, 2011

The Art of Being Cared For...

I never really thought about it...until I realized that it was ME...I think it is an extremely difficult role for most anyone to adopt...the care receiver can be very gracious, to the point of being cloying...or even self effacing...,or worse...there is always the potential for the "let me do that for you" response...which is really just one more slightly manipulative position on the continuum of positions one can take...and inevitably, friction will arise, because there is no way to maintain equanimity over the long haul. My first AA sponsor was firm on this point, and the only way to achieve authenticity is to be as brutally transparent as possible. Define, correct, define, correct, define, correct...there is no definitive position, but trying for "infinitely close" is not a bad way to go...for now, I will try for accuracy, and settle for (hopefully), doing no harm.

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  2. From Palmer to David to me. Chuck, I am shaken by your situation. I am dazzled by your writing. With your permission, I am going to send your list to the local paper here on this small island I call home. Hopefully the many experts here will stfu a moment and read it.
    Oddly, Hal Newsome has a small summer cabin on a big 5 acres next door. Saw him yest. when he came out from Seattle with his wife, the ever bubbly Peggy, to check out the new year.
    He is bent with Parkinson's, nearly in half, but like a willow, never broken. And so we all go in our own way. Margy (Tylczak) Heffelfinger

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  3. Hi Chuck. Lovely to have come across your blog. Very interesting read. I am writing a blog post about Labyrinths and Alzheimer's on my gardening blog and came across you in the process. I will add a link to your blog if that's ok with you as im sure more people will be interested to see your writings and thoughts. Take care, and kind regards from Ireland, Sunny

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  4. Chuck, it was so great to see you and spend time with you and Deb last evening. You were a teacher to me back back in the 80's and I still carry those lessons. Thru your words here, I am the grateful student once again. I too have a blog. It is on the Tao. May be of help to you. doingthetao.blogspot.com
    Marie

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  5. Dr. Osas herbal medicine is a good remedy for Alzheimer's, I have been suffering from Alzheimer's for the past 4years plus. One day when my husband was suffeing the internet, he saw a testimony on how Dr. Osas cure people from Alzheimer's and other sickness, diseases and virus with the help of his herbal medicine. My husband decided to contact him. And when my husband contacted him, Dr Osas guided me. Thereafter, my husband asked him for solutions on what is needed to be done to save his wife? Dr Osas asked my husband to send him our residential address so that he could deliver the herbal cure to us through UPS Delivery. He also told my husband on what is needed to be done, so my husband quickly did it according to Dr Osas wish. Dr Osas started the remedies for my health. Thank God, now everything is fine, I'm cured by Dr. Osas herbal medicine, I'm very thankful to Dr. Osas. I and my husband has spent almost $16,840USD at the hospital. we keep buying drugs from the medical Dr, but yet all our effort came up abortive. Thanks to God Almoighty that am fully cured by Dr Osas the herbal Doctor. Herbal medicine is good and its natural. Reach him on doctorosasherbalhome@gmail.com Or contact his number via +2348112252378 or you can as well add him on whatsapp with same number
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    7. CHRONIC DISEASE
    8. Coronary Artery Disease (Ischemic Heart Disease)
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    10.Bipolar disorder

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  6. Dr. Osas herbal medicine is a good remedy for Alzheimer's, I have been suffering from Alzheimer's for the past 4years plus. One day when my husband was suffeing the internet, he saw a testimony on how Dr. Osas cure people from Alzheimer's and other sickness, diseases and virus with the help of his herbal medicine. My husband decided to contact him. And when my husband contacted him, Dr Osas guided me. Thereafter, my husband asked him for solutions on what is needed to be done to save his wife? Dr Osas asked my husband to send him our residential address so that he could deliver the herbal cure to us through UPS Delivery. He also told my husband on what is needed to be done, so my husband quickly did it according to Dr Osas wish. Dr Osas started the remedies for my health. Thank God, now everything is fine, I'm cured by Dr. Osas herbal medicine, I'm very thankful to Dr. Osas. I and my husband has spent almost $16,840USD at the hospital. we keep buying drugs from the medical Dr, but yet all our effort came up abortive. Thanks to God Almoighty that am fully cured by Dr Osas the herbal Doctor. Herbal medicine is good and its natural. Reach him on doctorosasherbalhome@gmail.com Or contact his number via +2348112252378 or you can as well add him on whatsapp with same number
    DOCTOR OSAS CAN AS WELL CURE THE FOLLOWING DISEASE:-

    1. HIV/AIDS
    2. HERPES
    3. CANCER ALL KINDS
    4. Alzheimer's
    5. Hepatitis A,B,C
    6. Diabetes
    7. CHRONIC DISEASE
    8. Coronary Artery Disease (Ischemic Heart Disease)
    9. Alopecia
    10.Bipolar disorder

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  7. For those people who's relative are Alzheimer’s Disease sufferer and maybe reading this, I find it hard that people are still ignorant of herbal medicine when it comes to treating Alzheimer’s Disease.
    I have been through many phases over the last couple of years since my father's diagnosis, he was 53 years old and had Early Onset Alzheimer’s Disease and his diagnosis changed my life in many ways, I spend most of the time in denial and I keep thinking the tests were wrong. But deep down I knew they were correct. Though sharing his story is very difficult. He was always very successful in being able to accomplish anything he set his mind on doing. Alzheimer’s is a bitch of a disease. It began by robbing his recent memory, but it didn't stop there. It continues to steal, taking the most recent memories until it has pilfered all but the oldest memories, he experienced a decline in his ability to think, remember and make decisions. I feel a need to express my thoughts and feelings about how it affected his day to day living and how its deteriorated since despite the help of some wonderful medics and medicine.
    I remind myself how lucky to come across Charanjit rychtova's herbal medicine which is able to control this disease without any side effect, I felt a moment of relief hoping that he is free from this ailment, and nothing compares to the healing power of nature. Now I believe almost every health problem can be addressed in one natural way or another. The only thing I wanted was for him to feel better. I’m proud to say my Dad is Alzheimer’s free. You can also contact him for more info. charantova@gmail.com

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