Monday, January 10, 2011
The Art of Being Cared For...
I never really thought about it...until I realized that it was ME...I think it is an extremely difficult role for most anyone to adopt...the care receiver can be very gracious, to the point of being cloying...or even self effacing...,or worse...there is always the potential for the "let me do that for you" response...which is really just one more slightly manipulative position on the continuum of positions one can take...and inevitably, friction will arise, because there is no way to maintain equanimity over the long haul. My first AA sponsor was firm on this point, and the only way to achieve authenticity is to be as brutally transparent as possible. Define, correct, define, correct, define, correct...there is no definitive position, but trying for "infinitely close" is not a bad way to go...for now, I will try for accuracy, and settle for (hopefully), doing no harm.
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ReplyDeleteFrom Palmer to David to me. Chuck, I am shaken by your situation. I am dazzled by your writing. With your permission, I am going to send your list to the local paper here on this small island I call home. Hopefully the many experts here will stfu a moment and read it.
ReplyDeleteOddly, Hal Newsome has a small summer cabin on a big 5 acres next door. Saw him yest. when he came out from Seattle with his wife, the ever bubbly Peggy, to check out the new year.
He is bent with Parkinson's, nearly in half, but like a willow, never broken. And so we all go in our own way. Margy (Tylczak) Heffelfinger
Hi Chuck. Lovely to have come across your blog. Very interesting read. I am writing a blog post about Labyrinths and Alzheimer's on my gardening blog and came across you in the process. I will add a link to your blog if that's ok with you as im sure more people will be interested to see your writings and thoughts. Take care, and kind regards from Ireland, Sunny
ReplyDeleteChuck, it was so great to see you and spend time with you and Deb last evening. You were a teacher to me back back in the 80's and I still carry those lessons. Thru your words here, I am the grateful student once again. I too have a blog. It is on the Tao. May be of help to you. doingthetao.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteMarie