Monday, January 10, 2011

The Art of Being Cared For...

I never really thought about it...until I realized that it was ME...I think it is an extremely difficult role for most anyone to adopt...the care receiver can be very gracious, to the point of being cloying...or even self effacing...,or worse...there is always the potential for the "let me do that for you" response...which is really just one more slightly manipulative position on the continuum of positions one can take...and inevitably, friction will arise, because there is no way to maintain equanimity over the long haul. My first AA sponsor was firm on this point, and the only way to achieve authenticity is to be as brutally transparent as possible. Define, correct, define, correct, define, correct...there is no definitive position, but trying for "infinitely close" is not a bad way to go...for now, I will try for accuracy, and settle for (hopefully), doing no harm.

16 comments:

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  2. From Palmer to David to me. Chuck, I am shaken by your situation. I am dazzled by your writing. With your permission, I am going to send your list to the local paper here on this small island I call home. Hopefully the many experts here will stfu a moment and read it.
    Oddly, Hal Newsome has a small summer cabin on a big 5 acres next door. Saw him yest. when he came out from Seattle with his wife, the ever bubbly Peggy, to check out the new year.
    He is bent with Parkinson's, nearly in half, but like a willow, never broken. And so we all go in our own way. Margy (Tylczak) Heffelfinger

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  3. Hi Chuck. Lovely to have come across your blog. Very interesting read. I am writing a blog post about Labyrinths and Alzheimer's on my gardening blog and came across you in the process. I will add a link to your blog if that's ok with you as im sure more people will be interested to see your writings and thoughts. Take care, and kind regards from Ireland, Sunny

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  4. Chuck, it was so great to see you and spend time with you and Deb last evening. You were a teacher to me back back in the 80's and I still carry those lessons. Thru your words here, I am the grateful student once again. I too have a blog. It is on the Tao. May be of help to you. doingthetao.blogspot.com
    Marie

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  5. Dr. Osas herbal medicine is a good remedy for Alzheimer's, I have been suffering from Alzheimer's for the past 4years plus. One day when my husband was suffeing the internet, he saw a testimony on how Dr. Osas cure people from Alzheimer's and other sickness, diseases and virus with the help of his herbal medicine. My husband decided to contact him. And when my husband contacted him, Dr Osas guided me. Thereafter, my husband asked him for solutions on what is needed to be done to save his wife? Dr Osas asked my husband to send him our residential address so that he could deliver the herbal cure to us through UPS Delivery. He also told my husband on what is needed to be done, so my husband quickly did it according to Dr Osas wish. Dr Osas started the remedies for my health. Thank God, now everything is fine, I'm cured by Dr. Osas herbal medicine, I'm very thankful to Dr. Osas. I and my husband has spent almost $16,840USD at the hospital. we keep buying drugs from the medical Dr, but yet all our effort came up abortive. Thanks to God Almoighty that am fully cured by Dr Osas the herbal Doctor. Herbal medicine is good and its natural. Reach him on doctorosasherbalhome@gmail.com Or contact his number via +2348112252378 or you can as well add him on whatsapp with same number
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    7. CHRONIC DISEASE
    8. Coronary Artery Disease (Ischemic Heart Disease)
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    10.Bipolar disorder

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  6. Dr. Osas herbal medicine is a good remedy for Alzheimer's, I have been suffering from Alzheimer's for the past 4years plus. One day when my husband was suffeing the internet, he saw a testimony on how Dr. Osas cure people from Alzheimer's and other sickness, diseases and virus with the help of his herbal medicine. My husband decided to contact him. And when my husband contacted him, Dr Osas guided me. Thereafter, my husband asked him for solutions on what is needed to be done to save his wife? Dr Osas asked my husband to send him our residential address so that he could deliver the herbal cure to us through UPS Delivery. He also told my husband on what is needed to be done, so my husband quickly did it according to Dr Osas wish. Dr Osas started the remedies for my health. Thank God, now everything is fine, I'm cured by Dr. Osas herbal medicine, I'm very thankful to Dr. Osas. I and my husband has spent almost $16,840USD at the hospital. we keep buying drugs from the medical Dr, but yet all our effort came up abortive. Thanks to God Almoighty that am fully cured by Dr Osas the herbal Doctor. Herbal medicine is good and its natural. Reach him on doctorosasherbalhome@gmail.com Or contact his number via +2348112252378 or you can as well add him on whatsapp with same number
    DOCTOR OSAS CAN AS WELL CURE THE FOLLOWING DISEASE:-

    1. HIV/AIDS
    2. HERPES
    3. CANCER ALL KINDS
    4. Alzheimer's
    5. Hepatitis A,B,C
    6. Diabetes
    7. CHRONIC DISEASE
    8. Coronary Artery Disease (Ischemic Heart Disease)
    9. Alopecia
    10.Bipolar disorder

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  7. For those people who's relative are Alzheimer’s Disease sufferer and maybe reading this, I find it hard that people are still ignorant of herbal medicine when it comes to treating Alzheimer’s Disease.
    I have been through many phases over the last couple of years since my father's diagnosis, he was 53 years old and had Early Onset Alzheimer’s Disease and his diagnosis changed my life in many ways, I spend most of the time in denial and I keep thinking the tests were wrong. But deep down I knew they were correct. Though sharing his story is very difficult. He was always very successful in being able to accomplish anything he set his mind on doing. Alzheimer’s is a bitch of a disease. It began by robbing his recent memory, but it didn't stop there. It continues to steal, taking the most recent memories until it has pilfered all but the oldest memories, he experienced a decline in his ability to think, remember and make decisions. I feel a need to express my thoughts and feelings about how it affected his day to day living and how its deteriorated since despite the help of some wonderful medics and medicine.
    I remind myself how lucky to come across Charanjit rychtova's herbal medicine which is able to control this disease without any side effect, I felt a moment of relief hoping that he is free from this ailment, and nothing compares to the healing power of nature. Now I believe almost every health problem can be addressed in one natural way or another. The only thing I wanted was for him to feel better. I’m proud to say my Dad is Alzheimer’s free. You can also contact him for more info. charantova@gmail.com

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  8. Having Dementia disease knocked my grandma off her life and had her living like a mad person, I did know how the better part of her life eluded her, my mind was completely splatted in two, She showed a severe decline in her mental and cognitive skills in the last few years of her life and her quality of life had deteriorated greatly in the last 3 years of life where she was mostly bedridden. I am very glad my partner sought help and now she is free from all signs of psychosis. She was healed through the herbal medicines from Dr Charanjit, I do not wish to go the same route and I manage to live a fairly active and healthy lifestyle.
    Here are her words "Finally, can you imagine what it would feel like to be NORMAL again, like I were before I was struck down by this horrible condition that you never asked for, and don’t deserve?" Sounds great doesn't it?
    You can contact him via email charantova@gmail.com He is well known for his groundbreaking treatments concerning the brain and mind issues.

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  9. In my own case it was just over four years ago when my Mum began to sound different on the phone. She lived back East with my siblings and my husband and I were living on the West coast and in phone calls it became apparent that my Mum's voice no longer had the same tones of excitement and humor that she used to; and instead it was very flat. At the same time she began to tell us about a situation at work that just didn't seem possible; she was complaining that a group of fellow workers were conspiring to get her. Although Mum had much academic success as a teenager, her behavior had become increasingly odd during the past years. She quit seeing her friends and no longer seemed to care about her appearance or social pursuits. She began wearing the same clothes each day and seldom bathed. She lived with several family members but rarely spoke to any of us. Obviously this whole story seemed very unbelievable and we sensed something was wrong but had no clue as to what it could be. We recommended that my Mum quit her job and look for something else - as we began to wonder if she had a "mental breakdown" and would get better once out of the stressful job situation.
    In the case of Mum, she was having persecurtory delusions, auditory hallucinations and negative symptoms that had lasted for at least Three years. All of these symptoms fit with a diagnosis of Dementia. Her story reflects a common case, in which a high-functioning young adult goes through a major decline in day-to-day skills. Although family and friends may feel this is a loss of the person they knew, the illness can be treated and a good outcome is possible as it all got better when we started using a herbal medicine for her through Aparajita.
    My recommendation to people who are either wondering if they have Dementia or wondering if a friend or loved one has Dementia should contact aparajitatan@gmail.com. I think one of our key problems was that we didn't do this in the early days of my Mum's illness as we never thought of a natural alternative for her.

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  10. I am bold enough among many others to state that there is now a potent cure to this sickness but many are unaware of it. I discovered that I was infected with the virus 3 months ago, after a medical check-up. My doctor told me and I was shocked, confused and felt like my world has crumbled. I was dying slowly due to the announcement of my medical practitioner but he assured me that I could leave a normal life if I took my medications (as there was no medically known cure to Herpes). I went from churches to churches but soon found that my case needed urgent attention as I was growing lean due to fear of dying anytime soon. In a bid to look for a lasting solution to my predicament, I sought for solutions from the herbal world. I went online and searched for every powerful trado-medical practitioner that I could severe, cos I heard that the African Herbs had a cure to the Herpes syndrome. It was after a little time searching the web that I came across one Dr Itua(A powerful African Herbal Doctor), who offered to help me at a monetary fee. I had to comply as this was my final bus-stop to receiving a perfect healing. My last resolve was to take my life by myself, should this plan fail. At last it worked out well. He gave me some steps to follow and I meticulously carried out all his instructions. Last month, to be precise, I went back to the hospital to conduct another test and to my amazement, the results showed that negative,Dr Itua Can As Well Cure The Following Desease…Cancer,Hiv,Herpes, Hepatitis B,Liver Inflammatory,Diabetis,Fribroid, Dercum,fibromyalgia,Get Your Ex Back,Als,SYPHILLIS. You can free yourself of this Herpes virus by consulting this great African Herbal Doctor via this e-mail: drituaherbalcenter@gmail.com or call and whatsapp him on +2348149277967 He will help you and his herb medication is sure. he has the cure on all disease .You can talk to me on INSTAGRAM..tashamoore219.... 

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  11. As a sign of gratitude for how my son was saved from dementia , i decided to reach out to those still suffering from this.
    My son suffered dementia and it was really tough and heartbreaking for me because he was my all and the symptoms were terrible, we tried various therapies prescribed by our neurologist but none could cure him. I searched for a cure and i saw a testimony of so many people who was cured from dementia and so many other with similar body problem, and they left the contact of the doctor who had the herbal cure to dementia . I never imagined dementia has a cure not until i contacted him and he assured me my son will be fine. I got the herbal medication he recommended and my son used it and in one months he was fully okay even up till this moment he is so full of life. dementia has a cure and it is a herbal cure contact the doctor for more info on drwilliams098675@gmail.com on how to get the medication. Thanks for reading my testimony

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  12. I have decided to make this post or testimony public. My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s ten years ago. I loved my husband very much, and it was heartbreaking to have him develop Alzheimer's disease, and to stand by and watch him decline in his ability to take care of himself, struggling with day-to-day tasks. It takes away his memory and eventually the ability to do basic tasks. Alzheimer’s doesn’t just affect the person who is diagnosed, it also turns your world as caregiver, upside down if your loved one is grappling with the condition. To be clear, there is no pharmaceutical medicine, no magic pill that have any significant effect on the progressive downhill course of this disease. Not until we use a Herbal Medicine called BRONGEE that put an end to it. He has been well and living his best life. While there may be other different option to into. Never make your own success path a secret. There should be no shame. Contact Dr Rohan with dr.rohanronjohn@gmail.com, It may also help you too.

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  14. At age 62, I have noticed greatly increasing symptoms of dementia over probably the last ten years,i notice an increasing confusion, mood swings, and of course, forgetfulness. It has gotten so bad, I cannot trust myself to even do simple things. And, of course, this realization causes even more depression and anxiety. I had no choice but to seek another alternative choice online . I am a retired fire captain/paramedic, and am married to a registered nurse,we decided to try multivitamin herbal formula due to their success rate of their  Alzheimer's herbal treatment. I use the herbal remedy in 2018 ,the herbal cure has successfully get rid of my Alzheimer's condition with all symptoms I was experiencing.The herbal cure surprised my wife and anyone who knew me battling with it, there is a cure for Alzheimer's disease at there ,people still suffer from it due to lack of information .I highly recommend w w w multivitamincare. org treatment for those who know the feeling of suffering from these conditions. 

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